As one should perhaps expect when dealing with monsters,
relationships with them often get off on the wrong foot. The reasons for this
are simple—love is hard enough between two humans. If people do not always know
how to love one another, it is natural that adding a creature to the mix would
further complicate things. Monsters often do not know how to love. After all,
many of them became monsters due to some bizarre attempt at romance gone
horribly wrong. Love hurts. If anyone knows this it is the beasts of the world,
and so they find themselves showing it to their beauties, often quite by
accident. Of course, the beauties are not so easy to start a relationship with,
either. They have a tendency to judge one by appearances, which can be a bit
difficult when one appears to be a bear.
Beauty and the Beast begins with a rose. The next bit,
where the Beast demands a life in exchange for said rose, is a little less
romantic. Also unromantic is the way the Beast propositions her every night.
They try, these creatures. They just don’t know how to get started. Bettelheim
explains this well, saying that “[in] a way this story tells that to be able to
love, a person first has to become able to feel; even if the feelings are
negative, that is better than not feeling” (288).
Nightly
proposals aside, the protagonist of The
Beauty and the Beast is generally a decent suitor. Throughout the rest of
the day he is kind, if not an excellent conversationalist. She feels some
fondness for him, at least, though she always turns down his proposals.
However, her real love develops at night, when a handsome prince visits her
dreams, begging her to free him. This dream prince, of course, is the Beast in
human form, allowed to reach out to her only cryptically in the dark. Night is
an important time in folklore—it is when monsters regain their humanity or give
it up for love, when spells are broken, when the secrets of the day are
revealed. Confronted with two versions of their beast, beauties often fall
first for the one they meet at night, even when they cannot see them.
In “East ‘O the Sun, West O’ the Moon,” the story’s
beast, a white bear, quite literally buys his beauty, telling her father that
if he can have the girl, he’ll make him “as rich as [he] now is poor”
(Asbjørnsen). The girl, like Villeneuve’s Beauty, goes along out of love for
her father, who, though he works hard to convince her, will not actually sell
her until she agrees, and for her starving family. Affection for the bear grows
slowly—her relationship with him is friendly enough, it seems, but her real
interest is in the man who joins her in bed each night, when all the lights
have been put out. Telling her mother about this mystery man on a brief visit
home, she admits to being “woeful and sorrowing, for she thought she should so
like to see him, and how all day long she walked about there alone, and how
dull, and dreary, and lonesome it was” (Asbjørnsen).
As if buying and selling and threats weren’t enough,
sometimes the monsters begin by trying to eat their future lovers. Really, it’s
amazing what a girl will forgive. In the Danish “King Lindorm,” a giant snake
monster demands that his parents provide a wife, and then eats the two princesses
they find on his wedding nights. Fearing war, the third time the lindorm
demands a bride, the king picks a peasant girl out of the forest for him.
Unsurprisingly, the wedding night is difficult. The lindorm was born already
cursed—he has never been human, and he has never known love. Some echo of a
human idea that getting married and falling in love is the thing to do, though
certainly present, cannot overpower the instincts of a hungry snake. But the
love of the girl will be enough—love for her family, her own life, maybe even
what she knows this monster could be—and by morning he will be a man, full of
love and forgiven of all dietary sins.
The prince figure in “Donkey Skin” falls in love with,
and sometimes nearly dies for, a shadow and a dream. This is where Cinderella
comes into it—Donkey Skin, too, appears briefly and beautifully in the night,
melting away into a world of servitude.
Part of the process—perhaps the most important part of
the process—of becoming human is learning to love, which for monsters usually
means healing from hurts inflicted in the name of love. For the most part,
beasts cannot be loved, not completely, in all their forms, until they have
learned to love properly, without causing pain. When they can love selflessly,
their beauties will return that selfless love, and finally they will be allowed
their humanity again.